Why Marriage Counseling Doesn’t Work!

Statistics show that roughly 50% of marriages will end in divorce.  That’s a sad fact, I know, especially when you consider how many other couples are in marriages that they aren’t happy with.

You probably fall into that category right now, but let me tell you, it doesn’t have to end in divorce!

Typically, when one or both parties in the marriage are unhappy, things fall into a downward spiral, and the marriage becomes tougher and tougher to deal with.

You no longer talk; you yell and argue. And if you’re lucky enough to have things “going your way”, maybe you just get the silent treatment.

Deep down, you know what the problems in your marriage really are. And you’ve told your spouse about them. They just don’t seem to understand, or seem to see it your way.

If you have a partner who is actually willing to work to save your marriage, then you’ve probably thought about going through marriage therapy and seeing a counselor.

But before you do that, I want to tell you to STOP!

If your marriage is in crisis, one of the worst things you can do is see a marriage counselor!

I know you’re thinking this must be crazy, but you’re more likely to have your marriage end in divorce than actually stop your divorce from happening. In fact, studies have shown that 75% of couples who see a marriage counselor report being worse off, or even divorced, after they see a counselor!

Stats like that answer the question you had in your head when you started searching for help. No, marriage counseling doesn’t work!

Why doesn’t it work? The answer may not surprise you, particularly if you’ve already been to see a therapist to help fix your marriage. The counselor will get you and your partner into a room, act as a mediator, and get you to focus on all the things that are WRONG with your marriage.

This is counter intuitive, and it doesn’t work! This system of helping your relationship actually gets you to focus on the negatives of your marriage. You’re not pointing out the good that you have built.

Having a counselor present and acting as a “mediator” creates a false sense of security that you can actually say anything to your partner and it will be okay.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.  It actually creates anger and hostility, because it essentially turns into a session of you telling your partner how bad they make you feel. And no one wants to be told that all they do is hurt the one they love.

So the next question you’re asking is “How Do I Save My Marriage?”

We get this one all the time. And this is where we emphasize the difference between “Marriage Counseling” and “Marriage Fitness”.

Marriage Fitness is a system developed my the well known Mort Fertel. Morte is an authority on psychology and relationships, and one of the leading experts teaching couples how to save their marriage and stop their divorce.

In his marriage boot camp, Mort teaches couples to focus on the positives in the relationship, not the negatives. He essentially tells you to put the negatives out of your mind and start focusing and sharing with your spouse what they do great, and what you love about them.

This  is the way to make your partner feel special, feel wanted, and feel like they do have a marriage that’s worth saving. And when your partner begins to share with you things they love about you, things you never knew they appreciated, you too will begin to fall in love all over again.

Marriage fitness boot camp isn’t an overnight process. It takes time to develop. In fact, Fertel suggests that in order to establish the proper foundation and rebuild trust and love, a couple could expect the process to take around 14 weeks!

While that may not be what you were looking for, I can testify that anyone trying to tell you that they can fix your marriage overnight isn’t worth a damn!

At this point, you have a choice. You can leave your marriage, or you can work on it and try to fix it. My guess is since you’re reading this, you’re more interested in ending the marriage crisis you’re in want to bring back the love in your relationship.

By now, I hope you know the difference between Marriage Counseling and Marriage Fitness.  And I hope you don’t make the mistake of finding some online marriage counselor that is just looking for you to send them money.

Go with a proven winner at saving relationships.

If you want to learn more about Mort Fertel and his Marriage Fitness Programs, you can do so by visiting his site and signing up for a FREE Report: “7 Secrets For How To Save A Marriage”.

In addition, you’ll get access to 5 Free Marriage Assessment Quizzes to help you gauge how much help your marriage needs.

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This type of infidelity starts up slowly but if left unresolved can even lead to divorce or separation in a marriage. It is really important to identify an emotional affair of your spouse from various warning signs and work on resolving it before its too late.

Many of us go through break ups and heart aches but an emotional affair in marriage is a tough situation to recover from. This is one of the destructive forms of cheating and makes it difficult to build back the trust and confidence between partners in a marriage.

Here are the various Tell-Tale signs of emotional infidelity in a marriage:

Secrecy: This is first warning sign of an emotional affair. If your partner keeps one or a few particular contacts from the opposite sex a secret your relationship may be at stake with risks of an emotional infidelity.

Spending Time With a New Friend or Group
If your spouse looks for chances to spend time with a new friend or a group of friends from the opposite sex this too may indicate towards a possible emotional affair. If your spouse often says he/she is meeting with a new group of friends this may be an excuse to meet with someone he/she is having an emotional affair with.  You should always ask questions to stop this emotional affair take control of your relationship and ruin your marriage.

Emotional Distance in The Relationship
Emotional infidelity can result in your spouse distancing himself/herself from you. If your spouse shows least interest in the marriage , you and kids it is a clear sign that he/she is having an emotional affair outside the marriage.

If you have any kind of doubts about a possible emotional affair of your spouse you should try to find out about it by asking your spouse. You should insist on knowing if anything is wrong as this will get your spouse’s attention and this can save your marriage from emotional infidelity.

Emotional infidelity in marriage is cheating your partner without having a physical relationship outside your marriage. This is dangerous form of marriage infidelity as it results in marriages falling apart and partners looking for separation or divorce. If you have any problems in your married life you should discuss it with your spouse rather than someone else outside the marriage. When you discuss things with yous spouse every marital problem can be worked out and a solution can be arrived at.

Here are some tips to save yourself and your marriage from an emotional affair:

First, you should remind yourself that your marriage is precious and both you and your spouse have spend a lot of good and bad times together. It has taken years of love and passion to build this successful married life and an emotional affair can ruin things almost instantly.

Before thinking about getting into an emotional affair outside your marriage put yourself in the shoes of your spouse. Ask yourself, how would you react if you found that your spouse is discussing matters with someone else from the opposite sex outside your marriage which they should be talking about to you? You would feel betrayed and angry and so you should also stay away from emotional infidelity in marriage to help save your marriage.

If you’ve been cheated on, it is advised to seek the help of an affair recovery expert.

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Those who truly understand what happiness is and how it develops are the best guides and parents of little angels on earth that we call children. Raising happy kids is a solemn responsibility and takes a lot of love and care with the right attitude projected to the little darlings.

Kids brought up in a healthy and fun-filled environment tend to be naturally happy. It is what they see, that they perceive. The cordial relationship and warmth amongst family members, respect for elders and most importantly the language spoken amongst them is something that the child notes without being told about. The more positive attitude depicted at home, that much more it imbibes in the kid in a progressive manner.

All kids have a unique quality of doing things their own way. It is up to parents to make them feel worthwhile and appreciate and value their efforts in a constructive manner. Kids beam with self confidence and learn to appreciate the good that they have done. This helps in fostering self esteem and trust in themselves.

Similarly, when they do something wrong, instead of reprimanding them with punishments, it is more advisable to make them reason about the folly on their part. This concept is a tried tested one and builds the reasoning of right over wrong in kids and helps them to grow into happy adults. All kids make mistakes but to properly channel them is the art of raising happy kids.

Kids thrive when they are taught to have an optimistic and positive attitude in life. They are a joy to the beholder with their sunny demeanor and enjoyment of life to its fullest. They learn to appreciate the excitement and flair of anticipating the future with an encouraging approach.

Kids are bubbles of energy and are born with a carefree broad outlook of life. Their energies should be nurtured to enjoy the simple things of life which are so important for their upbringing. It’s true that we need to guide them but merely overemphasizing on a single activity rather than an overall development regime for the kid doesn’t help much. Their abilities should be reared instead of burdening them with our own manifestations of accomplishments. To be able to judge a child’s natural talent and passion in something that he desires to do, and to honor it with enthusiasm too, is a very big step towards a child’s happiness.

The most important thing for kids is the teaching of gratitude in life. Kids who learn this trait enjoy the wonderful experiences of giving wholeheartedly without expectations. The art of sharing with someone else enhances the values of self worth and plentitude in them.

Raising happy kids is an enjoyable venture in which we gain more by giving to them. A happier kid goes into the making of a happier world.Similar Posts:

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This was pretty alarming to us, so we figured we get to the bottom of this, and come up with 3 ways to to please your man in bed.

At the end of this article, leave a comment and let us know what you think. What would you add?

TEASE YOUR MAN

Just like a woman, men want to be teased. They want to build up to the climax through kissing, touching, licking, caressing and foreplay.

Tell your man how they make you feel, what you want to do to them, what you want them to do to you. Sometimes you have to be the dominate one in the bedroom. Sometimes you have to tell him what to do.

But switch it up. Sometimes you have to be submissive and let him have your way with you. Tell him what you want done to you and have him surprise you.

All of these kinds of talks are very hot and sexy, and build anticipation. And if you have them at random times, not just in the bedroom, it becomes a big tease and a HUGE turn on!

STRIP FOR YOU MAN

I haven’t met a man yet that doesn’t like a woman to strip for him. It’s why men go the strip clubs. It’s the thought and anticipation of what’s going to happen next.

Some woman are afraid to strip because they feel silly. Some think they aren’t attractive enough.

Put an end to all that talk! STRIP!

Your man will love you for it! He thinks you’re plenty attractive, which is why he’s with you. Give him the fantasy of being at a strip club while at home.

Learn how to do it. Rub him, grind him, and when he tries to touch you, move his hand away and tell him “no touching”. He will get totally turned on, and you will have some GREAT sex!

GIVE  HIM THE BEST HAND JOB!

I know what you’re thinking; no man wants a hand job, right? WRONG!

And this is perfect for those women who HATE giving head!

Many women who hate giving head make it such an awkward and uncomfortable experience for a man that he doesn’t even want them to go down on him.

But a hand job is different. If you learn the art of it!

Men think hand jobs feel great, especially when it’s your hand, not theirs! They get an incredible visual experience out of it. They watch your hand gliding up and down there “best friend”, watch your face as you get into it, and you get to watch them enjoy what you’re doing to them.

There are several tips and techniques you can use to give your man the most incredible hand job of his life. The kind of hand job that will have him doing whatever it takes to do ANYTHING to please you in return. And whatever it takes to keep you by his side.

If you want to learn more about giving mind blowing hand jobs, then Oprah Expert Michael Webb is where you need to turn. He’s written a “how to” guide for Hand Job Help.

Just click the link below or the image in this article to learn the best techniques for giving the most unforgettable hand jobs ever! And say good bye to giving head!

Hand Job Help

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So when you go on a date, make sure to take things easy and avoid getting too serious about anything. If you act too serious, you might scare your date off and end up with a disaster date. So always take it easy, and just go wherever the flow leads both of you.

There are actually a lot of effective college dating tips that one should know to make sure that your date will become fun and successful.

College Dating Tips

Meeting Girls

The best places to meet potential dates would be inside your classroom, library, internet or through your friends. According to a research conducted for college dating tips, people who meet their dates through a common friend usually end up having a successful date.

But today, due to the growing technology, a lot of people find their dates through the internet. Usually college people today find their dates or even their future girlfriends and boyfriends through dating sites and social networking websites.  No matter where you meet your future date, always make sure to be humble and honest by not scaring your future date away.

Getting To Know You Stage

In this stage, you need to give out information that is not too personal. You can also ask her about her life, but avoid asking too personal questions because this might annoy her. Remember that both of you are in college, and long term relationships are usually not on either of your minds. So always take things smoothly, and avoid getting too serious when conversing. Remember that your goal here is to enjoy the dating stage, for her to enjoy as well. Just think about having fun! Stand out from all the other douche bags that she’s been with.

Time Apart

Avoid being too clingy to her, because both of you have your own lives that you need to attend to. College consists of workloads and such, that is why another good college dating tip that you can do is just spend some time apart. In this way, you will give yourself a time to miss her. Of course, avoid being apart for a too long,  because you will give an impression that you are no longer interested in her. So always make sure that you are giving her a reasonable time away from you.

Bond With Her

Always make it a point to bond with her during weekends or non study times. This will let her know that you want to be with her during these times. You can go watch a movie, or go out of town to enjoy each other’s company. Know what pleases her, and let her know your likes and dislikes as well. In this way, you will surely have a great time bonding with her during your free time.

These are some of the useful college dating tips that you can do, to make sure that your date will end up successful. Always see to it to avoid taking things too seriously, to avoid having confusion and difficulties. Follow these college dating tips, for you to know how to handle college dating perfectly.Similar Posts:

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