We continue this series suggesting how to avoid many
pitfalls in building interpersonal relationships, whether
with family, coworkers, friends, or that special someone.
Committed, loving relationships do not just happen. You may
know that there is no success secret, no checklist of
things to do, and just as important things not to do to
make such relationships happen. But we do have many
suggestions that focus on potential problems. We actually
have a double series of articles for the letter C.

C is for control. This is a big no-no for any kind of
relationship. Don’t go on a power trip. No one; whether
coworkers, acquaintances, friends, or family members will
appreciate your attempts at controlling them. When you are
trying to push your point of view, your way of doing things
you should ask yourself; is the point in question really
what it’s all about? Or am I simply trying to impose my
control on people? Ask yourself, how would I like it if
people would try to control me? You don’t have to
constantly choose the movie or restaurant. Giving up
control may require some imagination and compromise. Let’s
say that you are a vegetarian. Don’t be surprised that the
people around you are tired of going to the only vegetarian
restaurant in town. Change restaurants. You don’t have to
order a Porterhouse steak. Order the Greek salad. And save
room for a special dessert. You may get something for the
control that you have relinquished. At least you’ll get a
good meal.

C is for careless. Don’t be sloppy. Don’t forget your
wedding anniversary. (I bet you don’t forget your
birthday.) Life is full of details. Don’t miss them.
Remember, what seems insignificant to you can have great
importance to others. Take that last look in the mirror
before leaving the house. A bit of egg on your face will
ruin an otherwise great job interview. If you need to take
notes on your calendar and make lists.

C is for condescend. Condescension is a real relationship
killer. Don’t go around assuming that you are better than
people and even if you think so make sure you don’t say it.
If I’m the patient and you’re the doctor, there is no
reason to remind me of these facts. I know I’m the patient
and I know that I haven’t gone to medical school, etc. It
doesn’t matter who you are, get off of your high horse.
Just remember, the bigger they come the harder they fall.
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Levi Reiss teaches computer classes in an Ontario
French-language community college. He wrote ten computer
and Internet books and now builds web sites. Visit his new
site celebrating all kinds of love and relationships at
http://www.loveamourlove.com . This site includes a great
collection of English and French love quotes (with
translations) and a wide range of articles on building and
repairing love, family, and other relationships.

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