1) Do something about it. Take the initiative. Do something about your marriage.
Ultimately, this is your marriage and you are responsible for maintaining and
nurturing it. If you do not make this effort to take care of your marriage, no one
will take care of it for you. Wives ought to do small things, or small gestures that
are very important for your husband. Cooking special meals, preparing his clothes
for work and small gifts and cards when he least expects them.

2) You ought to talk to each other Keeping secrets would not get you anywhere good
with your marriage. Whatever it is that you would wish to discuss to your partner,
do so. If sex is a problem for you, then be open about it. It is only through
talking to each other that you will understand each others needs more.

3) Listen to what he / she will say. Communication does not only involve talking,
you have to listen as well. Talking without listening is not going to help you get
to where you want. Giving each other the opportunity to talk is a good option. Every
single thing that is being brought up should become your guidelines so that the two
of you will learn how to respect your partner’s feelings and points of views.

4) Forgive and forget. Although easier said than done, if you are really interested
in saving your marriage, the couple ought to know how to go on with their lives. Try
not to dwell in the past where mistakes are made. One must learn to accept and
forget all the mistakes that had been done.

5) Advice. Seeking advice from your friends or family is strongly recommended.
Getting one from a counselor is a good option as well. Both husband and wife have to
commit and be devoted to attend sessions. Where they will be able to speak their
thoughts and speak freely.

These are merely only some of the tips that can help save the marriage. Love ought
to always be at hand in order to save the relationship. It is love that would make
all these things a lot easier to do and will aid in saving a marriage that was
predestined to last forever.

How can you save your marriage? Discover the 3 most common mistakes
you must absolutely avoid when you are trying to save your marriage.

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One day she told me, “You’re a strong man, so weaker women
are attracted to you.” By weaker she meant insecure. We all
know people who are insecure and the more insecure they
are, the less fun they are to be around. They tend to
project their insecurities on other people.

I’m not a psychologist, but I got it. I learned something
about me. I looked back and realized I dated many women who
were insecure. I realized that my role in it was that on
some level, my ego enjoyed the fact that they needed me.

After that, I had a heightened awareness about what had
prompted me to marry my first wife and I made a far better
choice after that because I did not want a second divorce.

Many factors affect why you make your decisions and you can
recognize your part them as you work to figure out if you
are being cheated on. Here is a list of clues for you:

- There are missing chunks of time in his schedule

- The reasons given for the missing chunks doesn’t ring
true inside you

- You no longer spend the same amount of quality time
together

- You are discouraged from ever answering their cell phone

- He/she doesn’t want to have sex with you any more (or as
often)

- Non-loving words comes out of his/her mouth

- His/her blink rate increases when they talk to you.

Now this last one deserves some explaining as the rest are
pretty obvious. When an individual has a very slow blink
rate, this is often a sign that he or she has a fear of
abandonment. “If I close my eyes, you’ll be gone!” When an
individual has a very fast blink rate, this is often a sign
of engulfment, and is frequently a sign that they are
lying. “If I close my eyes, you’ll go away and I won’t have
to deal with you.”

Sometimes, when an individual is lying, he/she cannot look
at you at all. This clue belongs in the same category as
rapid eye blinking. If he touches his face, behind his ears
etc with his hands, this is another symbol of lying. He
would never touch his heart while lying. When guilty, your
spouse will become defensive. An honest person takes the
offensive stance. Sometimes, an answer is delayed when the
person is lying. Women lie to make others feel good. Men
lie to make themselves look good. Police use eye blink
rates and eye movement to tell when someone is lying. You
should be so savvy yourself in order to prevent yet another
divorce.

There’s an old saying that “Winners never cheat and
cheaters never win.” There’s a lot of truth in that old
proverb. If your spouse has lied to you, the trust you
once had has been destroyed and that is extremely
challenging to rebuild. I hope these few words help you to
build and maintain a quality relationship so that you can
marry well the second time and never go through divorce
again.
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In his book “Getting Over It: Wisdom for Divorced Parents,”
Len Stauffenger shares with you the simple wisdom gleaned
from his divorce and from the raising of his daughters. Len
is a Success Coach and an Attorney. His is a heartfelt,
visionary story of the success at the end of his divorce
journey. You can purchase Len’s book and it’s accompanying
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Before we go too far, let’s talk about the 2 reasons men keep secrets from their significant other:

1. They wish their partner would understand them, but they are afraid they won’t.
2. They are simply trying to get away with something they know is wrong.

Obviously, the second reason is more of a concern.  If he’s hiding minor things, there is no need for alarm.  He’s probably just not sure how you’ll react. Let’s get into the secret minds of men.

The Number Of Women He’s Had  Sex With:

Look, men just aren’t sure how to handle this, so they will typically exaggerate, but depending on the man, the number can be higher or lower.  Some men lie high, hoping you’ll see them as sexually experienced.  Other men lie low, so you won’t see them as the player they really are.

Don’t sweat this dirty little secret.  It’s not that serious.  Personally, I’ve never understood why anyone would want to know this.  If you are one that really needs to know, leave a comment below and tell me why.  I’d love to understand why it’s important to you.

Does He Compare You To His Last Girlfriend:

The answer is, absolutely, YES!!  He can’t help it.  Everything you do, you’re being measured.  Lucky for you, he’s not with her anymore.  He’s with you.  All he really wants is someone he enjoys being around, someone who gets along with his friends, and ultimately, some one he can trust and be happy with.

Even if he’s comparing you to her, eventually he’s gonna realize that she’s gone for a reason.  That reason, is YOU!!  You’re the one he wants to be with, and you’re the one that makes him happy.  There, no need to fret about that.

He Still Masturbates

Some people are afraid to discuss this one, but let’s face it.  Masturbation is natural, and NORMAL!  Relax.  It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to be with you.  In fact, in a study conducted byWomens Health, 20% of men admitted to masturbating daily, and 33% confessed to masturbating 3 times per week!

Now who’s normal?  The only time you need to worry, is if he is choosing himself over you, or if he can’t reach climax with you.

He Worries If He Can Stay Faithful

Worry indeed.  You too!  But listen…it’s not  because he doesn’t want to be with you.  It’s because all his life he hears about how sex stops when you get married.  He hears it from friends, family, TV, and even movies depict that sex wanes once the vows are delivered.  That’s what he’s afraid of.

Don’t give him a chance to worry.  Keep a healthy sexual lifestyle, and you will end his fear.  If he is usually the one who initiates sex, then you try to rev things up for a change.  Also, don’t underestimate the power of having spontaneous sex in new places.  You’ll drive him wild and keep him from thinking about moving elsewhere for action.

Men Want Sex Twice As Much As They Get It

It’s not a bad thing.  Sex is natural.  And, according to many relationship experts, a healthy sex life is important to the success and happiness of any relationship.  So if he’s getting it twice a week, he probably wants it four times.

One big thing to keep in mind is how you reject your partner.  Let’s face it, you’re not always going to want it.  But be careful how you reject it.  It can devestate the ego.  Don’t just say no and roll over.  Let him know why.  But make it up to him by initiating it when you are ready.  It’s a big turn on for anyone, and a HUGE ego boost for every man I know.

Men have crazy, wierd thoughts.  And most of the time, they’re just afraid of you’re reaction.  If he’s not asking for sex, he wants it.  If he’s masturbating, he still wants you.  No need to worry.

Do you ever wonder what men are thinking?

What’s on your mind?  Let us know what you think.  Leave a comment at AdviseCouples.com and start sharing your thoughts.  We’re happy to discuss what you want.  You can even comment on what others have to say.  Just when you think something isn’t normal, you find out how normal you really are.Similar Posts:

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What I find terribly disturbing is how common sexless relationships have become.  Regardless of whether or not you are early on in a relationship, or if you are married, your relationship shouldn’t suddenly become sexless.  It’s really prompted me to dig and figure out why couples stop having sex.

It’s no surprise that the number one reason couples stop having sex has to do with communication.  In many cases, couples are afraid to express their feelings about sex.  If you can’t share your thoughts about sex with your partner, who can you share them with?  Why has it become uncomfortable?

You should definitely share your likes and dislikes with your partner.  You should be able to share fantasy with them.  And you should feel comfortable telling them how to please you.  You know your body better than anyone else.  Don’t hold back.  Don’t wait until you’re with your friends and tell them how bad the sex has gotten.  The only way to make it better is to share your thoughts and feelings with your partner.

Another reason couples stop having sex is because of performance issues.  I hear too often from couples, men and women, who just don’t understand the sexual cycles of men and women.  If you don’t understand the sexual cycles, it’s impossible to understand the orgasm.

These are the men who think they don’t last long enough in bed and can’t satisfy their woman, and the women who pressure them to help the woman achieve orgasm. No doubt, both couples should reach orgasm, but it isn’t always going to happen at the same time.

The Sexual Cycles

For Men, the sexual cycle has 5 stages.

1. Arousal
2. Plateau
3. Climax
4. Arousal
5. Nothing

For Women, the sexual cycle has 6 stages.

1. Arousal
2. Plateau
3. Climax
4. Plateau
5. Arousal
6. Deep Content

This extra step is huge!  And to make things even more complicated, the time in each stage varies between men and women.  For instance, it takes the average man about 7 minutes to reach orgasm, and women take about 10 minutes to reach their first plateau of sexual stimulation and an additional 5 minutes to climax.

Simple math tells us that a man must hold his climax for 10 minutes in order for the woman to reach orgasm.  If you’re falling within these times, you’re ok.  Don’t complicate things by making sex what it never should be, a performance.

If this is affecting your sex life and ruining your relationship, it takes extra measures to satisfy your partner.  If you are falling short of these average times, you may be suffering from premature ejaculation.  You can get help with this, and you don’t need medication to do it.  There are natural herbal supplements to help.  You can also download a free ebook by clicking the link Stop Premature Ejaculation.

If it’s not a sexual dysfunction, and you’re just not holding out long enough to please your partner, you may just have to work on other things, like extending foreplay, or helping your partner achieve orgasm manual after you reach your climax.  It can also help to know what it is your partner likes, where he or she likes to be touched, etc.  Again, it all goes back to sexual communication.

I order to please your partner, you really need to have a sexual understanding, and it all starts with talking.  You also really need to comprehend the sexual cycle of men and women to understand the orgasm.  You can end your sexless marriage by getting the help you deserve, and you’ve already started by landing on this page.Similar Posts:

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It’s simpler than you think.  You don’t have to have a bigger penis, or last for hours at a time.  All you have to do is pay attention and make her feel like a queen.  Woman want to feel appreciated the same way we want to feel significant.

You know how you want to be told how good you were in the sack?  She wants to be told how gorgeous she is, and sexy and beautiful she is, and how she makes you feel.  So do it.  Follow these 4 tips and she’ll want more sex!

Slow It Down!

So many times, guys get really excited and just want to jump to intercourse, skipping foreplay.  You can’t do this.  You have to get her hot.  You have to show her that you want her.  It’s not enough to just tell her.  Skipping foreplay tells her you’re in a hurry, and you don’t really want to be with her.  Rub her body, caress her, and kiss her in places you haven’t kissed her before.  She feel sexy, relaxed, and want to please you any way she knows how

Boost Her Ego!

Just like you want an ego boost, so do women.  You know how you want her to tell her how big your penis is?  She wants you to tell her she’s not fat, that she looks fantastic, and that she turns you on.  She’s not gonna want to do doggie-style if she thinks her butt is big.  Tell her how sexy her butt is and you’re in!

Detailed Praise!

If she did something you like, and you want her to do it again, then you have to tell her what she did and how it made you feel.  Every woman wants to know that she made her man’s eye’s roll into the back of his head.  Not only will she be happy she made you feel this way, but she’ll want to do it again and again!  Yay for you!

Call Her Name!

Right in the middle of making love, look her straight in the eye and say her name.  She will feel intimately connected to you and want to return any favor she can.  Pet names are great, but they don’t have the same emotional connection when you’re having sex.  Think about when you’re having sex and right as she’s about to orgasm, she scream’s your name.  It makes you feel like a champ, right?  King of the world!  That’s how she’ll feel if you look her in the eye and say her name!

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