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3 Ways To Please Your Man In Bed

admin — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:28:51 +0000

We do many surveys here at AdviseCouples.com, and something that seems to be common is that women are unsure of how to please their man in bed, and men tell us that they wish their woman could satisfy them.

This was pretty alarming to us, so we figured we get to the bottom of this, and come up with 3 ways to to please your man in bed.

At the end of this article, leave a comment and let us know what you think. What would you add?

TEASE YOUR MAN

Just like a woman, men want to be teased. They want to build up to the climax through kissing, touching, licking, caressing and foreplay.

Tell your man how they make you feel, what you want to do to them, what you want them to do to you. Sometimes you have to be the dominate one in the bedroom. Sometimes you have to tell him what to do.

But switch it up. Sometimes you have to be submissive and let him have your way with you. Tell him what you want done to you and have him surprise you.

All of these kinds of talks are very hot and sexy, and build anticipation. And if you have them at random times, not just in the bedroom, it becomes a big tease and a HUGE turn on!

STRIP FOR YOU MAN

I haven’t met a man yet that doesn’t like a woman to strip for him. It’s why men go the strip clubs. It’s the thought and anticipation of what’s going to happen next.

Some woman are afraid to strip because they feel silly. Some think they aren’t attractive enough.

Put an end to all that talk! STRIP!

Your man will love you for it! He thinks you’re plenty attractive, which is why he’s with you. Give him the fantasy of being at a strip club while at home.

Learn how to do it. Rub him, grind him, and when he tries to touch you, move his hand away and tell him “no touching”. He will get totally turned on, and you will have some GREAT sex!

GIVE HIM THE BEST HAND JOB!

I know what you’re thinking; no man wants a hand job, right? WRONG!

And this is perfect for those women who HATE giving head!

Many women who hate giving head make it such an awkward and uncomfortable experience for a man that he doesn’t even want them to go down on him.

But a hand job is different. If you learn the art of it!

Men think hand jobs feel great, especially when it’s your hand, not theirs! They get an incredible visual experience out of it. They watch your hand gliding up and down there “best friend”, watch your face as you get into it, and you get to watch them enjoy what you’re doing to them.

There are several tips and techniques you can use to give your man the most incredible hand job of his life. The kind of hand job that will have him doing whatever it takes to do ANYTHING to please you in return. And whatever it takes to keep you by his side.

If you want to learn more about giving mind blowing hand jobs, then Oprah Expert Michael Webb is where you need to turn. He’s written a “how to” guide for Hand Job Help.

Just click the link below or the image in this article to learn the best techniques for giving the most unforgettable hand jobs ever! And say good bye to giving head!

Hand Job Help

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You’re Freakin’ Bored with the Sex You’re Getting

admin — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 08:56:21 +0000

So, here’s a situation where you want to tell your lover
that you are totally bored with sex&;specifically, the
sex you have when you’re with them. You may (or may not)
actually reach orgasm, but you don’t get excited anymore
thinking about being with them. Your sexual activity has
become predictable, average, feels like maintenance, and
more often than not;TOO BRIEF!!

You want more. Maybe try new things. Include new
accoutrements (toys, fabrics, food, people) or make
memories in new places. Whatever it is you want to explore,
you want to do it with them. So you have to figure out a
way to say it that doesn’t make them dry or shrivel up, get
defensive, walk way, or shut it down completely. This isn’t
supposed to be a break up…just a step up.

So what do you do?

SITUATION FACTORS

*You like the person;it could be your husband, wife,
girlfriend, boyfriend, friend with benefits, booty call,
casual partner…whomever.
*You want to maintain the sexual relationship;
*You want to try more and/or different things with them (as
opposed to someone else)
*This is a quality issue, not a quantity issue;that’s
another situation topic.

YOUR MESSAGE:

I want you. And with you I want to explore more sexually. I
want to take our climax to new levels. I know that we have
yet to reach our sexual potential.

SAMPLE WORDS & PHRASES

*You make me want more.
*What if I tell you that you make me want to do very
naughty things?
*I have a surprise for you.
*Are you up for trying something new?
*Tell me about a fantasy you’ve yet to try.
*If you tell me a sexy secret, I’ll tell you one right back.
*I feel like I haven’t tapped in to my passionate and raw
side. Come with me.
*I want to feel your breath on the back of my neck, even
after you’ve long gone.
*I’m ready. You ready? Ready to go there. You know where.
Whisper it in my ear.

WARNINGS!!!

*Do not use words that place blame
*Do not create ultimatums
*The automatic response is for the recipient to take it
personally. And rightly so, and make you have to defend
yourself—thus getting off topic.
*Do not say, “I’m bored.”

SENSITIVITY FACTORS

*They may not be as experienced.
*They may be shy; you may be shy.
*Old baggage around sex.
*Personal insecurity.
*Fear of rejection.
*Work a lot; tired.
*Children considerations.
*You’ve gotten so familiar with each other and comfortable
that sex is no longer a priority.
*You both aren’t keeping you’re A-game up with each other.
*Religious constraints.

EXPRESSIVE METHODS:

*Handwritten message
*In person (after a couple of drinks…to keep the
automatic defense reaction at a minimum)
*Text message

SAMPLE DELIVERY METHODS:

*A gift in a box, with a handwritten note. For example, “I
have a surprise for you” written note (not typed) in a box
as a gift, lying on top of silk scarf.
*Voice note (like a text) with the Blackberry
*As a whisper in the ear over dinner, while driving…or
any place that’s not home to build up anticipation.

The key in the delivery method is to keep it intimate. You
want to create intrigue and stimulate desire.

WHAT TO EXPECT:

*This is not a situation that can be fixed over night.
*It takes consistent (soft and sexy) suggestions to shift
the expectations
*Perhaps resistance at first; but if demonstrate that this
is not a unilateral criticism, and that you want to step it
up with them (and them only;unless you both decide
you want to invite a guest or two)
*You may be making all the effort for change in the
beginning. It doesn’t mean that the person doesn’t want
change…just may have a more difficult time initiating the
change.
*Hopefully eventually…AMAZING SEX!!!

THOUGHTS FROM DR. MIKYTA DAUGHERTY, PhD

Given the fact that you’re the one who wants more from your
partner, you have the uncomfortable task of making your
needs known in a non-threatening way. This is the hard
part because everyone is a bit self-conscious when it comes
to their sexual abilities and thus, anything you say is
likely to feel a little threatening. They may become
sullen or defensive when presented with the hard news that
they’re not cutting it in bed. Expect it and treat it with
compassion. The key is to emphasize your confidence in
their ability to meet your needs. Offer your vulnerability
and invite them to join. Show them what you’d like. If
skill is the problem, there’s plenty to find on the
internet and in Barnes and Nobles. Buy some books and read
them aloud. Watch videos with each other. Make it fun and
something you do together. Make it a game where the goal
isn’t to win but to have fun – you’re on the same team.

Also, keep in mind that some people have been mistreated
sexually. There may be problems that have nothing to do
with you. Either way, if your partner does not respond the
way you’d like, don’t take it personally. If you hit this
hard, their insecurity should be short lived.

Remember, patience, compassion and modeling. Be the change
you want to see.
—————————————————-
Lisa Yancey is one of two incredibly hardworking women
spearheading Regarding Life. A writer, lawyer, consultant,
and mentor; Lisa conceived of Regarding Life in 2002 with
business partner Stacey Weihe. Lisa does all of the writing
for the company. Visit us on the web at
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Are You Having Enough Sex?

Thu, 02 Apr 2009 00:54:51 +0000

How much sex is enough? Are you having enough sex in your life?

For some reason, guys always think they aren’t getting enough sex. It doesn’t matter if they are single or in a relationship, it seems they want more and more sex. They crave it. They think about it all day long. It’s like their animal instinct takes over, and they want it all the time.

For women, it seems different. It’s not that they don’t want sex, because they do. They just seem to appreciate the intimacy of making love rather than the wham bam thank you mam variety.

Women actually crave sex as much as men.

Here is the secret to more sex…..

If you’re a man, learn to respect and appreciate your woman. Do the little things for her to make her life easier. Don’t do things because you expect o get laid. Do them because you love your woman.

If you can dedicate some time to showing you love her, she will be attacking you for sex every chance she gets. You will learn to appreciate her more and more, and she will appreciate the things you do.

The thing is, many woman are tired from everyday life. It’s not like it used to be, where they stay home while the man works. Today, they care for the home, the husband, the children, and they hold a job. That’s a lot for anyone to handle, so cut them some slack when they say they’re too tired for sex.

Back to the main question, how much sex is enough?

Honestly, for me, it’s never enough. There is no real answer. I love having sex with my significant other all the time. I love it when she surprises me and just takes me over. I love getting random blow jobs. I love sex in the shower. I love spontaneous outdoor sex.

I love surprising her when she gets home from work and just taking her over. Of course, she loves all these things too.

I’d hate to put a number on how much sex is enough. When you truly love someone, there is no number. You share you feelings with one another and sex is never a pre-thought. It is a responsive action brought on by your emotion.

I feel sorry for those of you who only get laid on a monthly schedule. Planned sex is the worst, but I hear it all the time about how “we only have sex once a month”, or “we only make love on Thursdays”.

How do you “make love on Thursdays”? If it is already planned, how much feeling and emotion is involved. This is not making love, this is a scheduled routine. Break this habit immediately!

I will say there are times we go days without having sex or making love. But it is never really a thought. Because when we do, we are both very passionate about each other and it is amazing!

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“O, O, O! Discovering that Perfect Orgasm!”

admin — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 10:30:44 +0000

Ladies, close your eyes and picture this….The lights are out, soft candle light flickers on the walls, and you and your partner are steaming up the windows of your bedroom. As he brings you closer and closer to the point of no return, suddenly you have the urge to urinate. The moment is ruined and once again, no orgasm. Little did you know, you were about toexperience an orgasm known as the g-spot orgasm.

As you leave the room to use the bathroom, suddenly the urge is gone. This night has been great, you are thinking. Your partner is frustrated, you are frustrated, and you still did not have that wonderful orgasm that you dream about. The problem may be you are not having that wonderful orgasm because you do not know HOW to have that orgasm. Many women are not aware of this, but there are actually 3 different types of orgasm that can be achieved through touching, and oral, vaginal, and anal intercourse. The three types of orgasms are clitoral, g-spot, and a combination of both.

The first type of orgasm is probably the easiest to achieve. This is the clitoral orgasm. This is the most common of the three. A clitoral orgasm is achieved by stimulation to the clitoral area. This can include touching, rubbing and licking. It can also be reached by using a toy known as a “Silver Bullet.” A silver bullet is a clitoral vibrator that provides extra clitoral stimulation during sexual intercourse or self-pleasuring. For women who have a problem reaching orgasm from intercourse alone, this gives that extra stimulation needed. Other types of bullets include: the Seventh Heaven, the Micro-Bullet, and the Waterproof Power Bullet.

A g-spot orgasm is harder to achieve. One main reason for this is due to the fact that many women do not know where their g-spot is located. A g-spot is located on the inner front wall of the vagina. A simple way to find a g-spot is for the woman to stand with her legs apart and insert a finger inside the vagina using a “come here” motion. The g-spot is located about two inches inside. The outer surface feels like the outside of a walnut shell. When it is aroused, it swells up. By applying pressure to the g-spot, an orgasm can be achieved. Your partner can also experiment with this. When laying down, have your partner insert a finger and perform the same come here motion. You can vary the speed and pressure to find what works for you. When you have that urge to urinate, (like mentioned earlier), fight past that urge. This is actually your g-spot being stimulated. You will not urinate. It is impossible to urinate while the g-spot is aroused. Once you discover how to have a g-spot orgasm, you will wonder what took you so long to read this information! Some toys to experiment with g-spot pleasure are the Wireless Thumbs Up, G-Wiz, and my personal favorite, Cowboy Up. These are all vibrators aimed specifically at the g-spot to help with arousal. They all have clitoral stimulators as well.

The final type of orgasm to have is a dual action orgasm, or combination of both. This can happen with foreplay or intercourse. It occurs when both the clitoral region and g-spot are stimulated at the same time. Both partners can do this manually or orally. Toys can also be used to achieve this type of orgasm. Toys recommended for this are Daddy From the Nati, the Honey Dipper, Bling Bling, and T.O.M. These toys contain different sized shafts, along with ball bearings, and several different speeds and clitoral stimulators.

Whenever participating in a sexual act, always remember a lubricant should be used and a toy cleaner for proper care of your toy. Both participants should be comfortable with whatever act is being performed and it is always important to keep open communication. Good luck on your quest for achieving the big “O”!

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