What I find terribly disturbing is how common sexless relationships have become.  Regardless of whether or not you are early on in a relationship, or if you are married, your relationship shouldn’t suddenly become sexless.  It’s really prompted me to dig and figure out why couples stop having sex.

It’s no surprise that the number one reason couples stop having sex has to do with communication.  In many cases, couples are afraid to express their feelings about sex.  If you can’t share your thoughts about sex with your partner, who can you share them with?  Why has it become uncomfortable?

You should definitely share your likes and dislikes with your partner.  You should be able to share fantasy with them.  And you should feel comfortable telling them how to please you.  You know your body better than anyone else.  Don’t hold back.  Don’t wait until you’re with your friends and tell them how bad the sex has gotten.  The only way to make it better is to share your thoughts and feelings with your partner.

Another reason couples stop having sex is because of performance issues.  I hear too often from couples, men and women, who just don’t understand the sexual cycles of men and women.  If you don’t understand the sexual cycles, it’s impossible to understand the orgasm.

These are the men who think they don’t last long enough in bed and can’t satisfy their woman, and the women who pressure them to help the woman achieve orgasm. No doubt, both couples should reach orgasm, but it isn’t always going to happen at the same time.

The Sexual Cycles

For Men, the sexual cycle has 5 stages.

1. Arousal
2. Plateau
3. Climax
4. Arousal
5. Nothing

For Women, the sexual cycle has 6 stages.

1. Arousal
2. Plateau
3. Climax
4. Plateau
5. Arousal
6. Deep Content

This extra step is huge!  And to make things even more complicated, the time in each stage varies between men and women.  For instance, it takes the average man about 7 minutes to reach orgasm, and women take about 10 minutes to reach their first plateau of sexual stimulation and an additional 5 minutes to climax.

Simple math tells us that a man must hold his climax for 10 minutes in order for the woman to reach orgasm.  If you’re falling within these times, you’re ok.  Don’t complicate things by making sex what it never should be, a performance.

If this is affecting your sex life and ruining your relationship, it takes extra measures to satisfy your partner.  If you are falling short of these average times, you may be suffering from premature ejaculation.  You can get help with this, and you don’t need medication to do it.  There are natural herbal supplements to help.  You can also download a free ebook by clicking the link Stop Premature Ejaculation.

If it’s not a sexual dysfunction, and you’re just not holding out long enough to please your partner, you may just have to work on other things, like extending foreplay, or helping your partner achieve orgasm manual after you reach your climax.  It can also help to know what it is your partner likes, where he or she likes to be touched, etc.  Again, it all goes back to sexual communication.

I order to please your partner, you really need to have a sexual understanding, and it all starts with talking.  You also really need to comprehend the sexual cycle of men and women to understand the orgasm.  You can end your sexless marriage by getting the help you deserve, and you’ve already started by landing on this page.Similar Posts:

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