The Groom’s Room: Creating Your Own Space In Your New Household
In this day and age, although it is rare, it is quite possible that the first time
that after the wedding will be the first time that the happy couple will be living
together. Putting two people under one roof is a challenge to say the least. It
means consolidating household goods, bank accounts and most of all, kissing privacy
goodbye. While this may not bother some, for others it can be a hard pill to
swallow.
Reports suggest that those couples that have their own individual space are much
happier than those that don’t. It doesn’t have to be a large space. Sometimes
something as small as a half bath where you can keep your toothbrush and shaving
cream can make a difference. Being close to your new wife is much better when you
choose to do it, instead of being forced to do it by a lack of space.
In order to keep from losing that loving feeling, it’s important for grooms to set
aside an area where they can get away from the Lifetime Movie Channel and HGTV. The
benefits of having a groom’s sanctuary can’t be stressed enough. When newlywed
couples first cohabitate, the stress alone can cause arguments. After all, no matter
how much you love someone, you will never get two individual people to agree on
everything all the time. You’d be surprised how much marital strife can be avoided
by simply walking away, calming down and then discussing the situation rationally
later. But when there is nowhere for either party to retreat to, it just makes the
situation worse.
So now that you’ve decided on having a groom’s room, now would be a good time to
spend some “quality time” with the new wife watching HGTV. This serves a twofold
purpose. First, you’ll be earning extra cool points for watching one of her favorite
channels with her and second, you’ll likely get some great ideas on how to create a
space for you with little effort and a small budget.
Another important way to have a space of your own is by having your own things in
that space, even if those things are new. For instance, you can achieve the feeling
of having your own space and your own things, by taking an active role in setting up
the wedding registry to assure that some of the things you want make it to the list,
instead of being overrun with pink, lacy everything. A great idea would be to
outfit your home office with a leather desk blotter or special lamp. A lot of stores
and websites sell great items like this as gifts for your groomsmen, so while you
are picking up gifts for them, pick up a few things for yourself. After all a new
beginning sometimes means getting new stuff and a “man space” is no different.
One really great way to get the things you want for your “man cave”, “man-rage”, or
whatever your space will be, is to make that the focus of a groom’s shower. More and
more men are having groom’s showers and you can enlist the person who is planning it
in helping you achieve the space you want. Depending on a variety of factors, you
may do something as simple as have your guests bring items for your new space, to
making the entire shower consist of making the space, sort of like “Extreme Home
Makeover” for your home office or garage.
No matter what you do, be sure that you keep a little bit of space for yourself. In
the long run, it will help you to appreciate all the great things about being
married.
Ian Lurie and his team write articles for Groom Stand (http://www.groomstand.com).
He’s successfully co-habitated with his wife for over 10 years.
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