Understanding Low Sexual Drive

Even though males don’t want to discuss it openly, neither do their mates, long-term couples commonly report a decline in their sexual desire. The loss of libido is more related to marriage than any other sexual dysfunctions. It is in the culture that women are habitually the ones who lose interest, with only about 15% of men losing interest in sex. In any case, this crisis has both dulling effects on either companion for reasons which aren’t exclusively attributed with old age.
This loss of libido can be very bothersome. It makes couples unhappy the rest of their lives as married individuals. Only 46% of women are still happy about life in general even losing sexual interest while there are roughly around 23% happy men. We need to simplify that loss of libido isn’t something to tolerate and live with. As partners, there is so much you can do together to revive that drive, save your marriage, and be happy in life.

Understanding the Signs
Loss of interest in sex does not happen in an instant. It’s a slow and steady process. There is loss of libido if a partner becomes uninterested in sex for some months of the preceding year.
It is also important for couples to know that the frequency of sexual encounters between them is not the best determinant of sexual interest. This is true especially when there are so many conditions that may impede the way of a sexual activity even if the libido is present.
To help you with, we have identified some warning signs that might be present in your relationship. Identification is a crucial step for you to be able to wrestle with these concerns before they become established.

a.   Physical contact occurs only in bedroom, usually at bedtime.
b.   Sex doesn’t give you a sense of connection and mutual sharing.
c.   One partner is always the starter while the other is just pressured
d.   You are not excited with sex
e.   Sex becomes mechanical and monotonous.
f.   You do not think of your wife in your sexual fantasies.
g.   Sex is only once a month.

If you have noticed most of these warning signs in your relationship, the loss of libido is imminent.

Regaining what was lost
When the loss of libido becomes a challenge as husband and wife, it is good for both partners to get down to it. A conversation would be a good medium for the couple to explore what went wrong. One needs to ask the other if there are things he/she can be of help, of what has changed from day 1 up to the present , or if he/she gets her needs, if work becomes demanding lately or if impotence is a problem. Discuss possible causes of loss of libido in an accommodating and warm manner. In this way, the neglected feeling won’t arise, and so with insecurities.

Get physical
Motion is important. Engage in a sport or go walking with your partner. If these become mechanical and routine, then contest yourself to go a little further, with this, both partners gain a sense of achievement and new vitality. This physical confidence might then be carried over into confidence during sex.

Expect less and be happy
Bringing down expectations to a more realistic one may take the pressure off. Sex does not have to be perfect always. It can be mutually satisfying, or the other way around. When it ‘s not working, the couple can experiment next time without feeling guilty and anxious.