Why Do Men Cheat?
All too often in today’s world, people cheat. By this I am talking about relationships. Women cheat. Men cheat. I’ll grant you, more men cheat than women. Someone once told me that “Women need a reason to cheat, men just need a place.” But, surely there must be more to it than that. So, let’s ask a question, “Why do men cheat?”
I’m sure we can discuss a variety of reasons. After all, no two relationships are exactly alike. However, let’s 
think about it. The only reason to go shopping is because we need something. You wouldn’t go buy milk if you had a gallon or two in the refrigerator. You wouldn’t try to put gas in a full tank. So, what is missing that a man feels he needs to “go shopping” for?
To answer this, let’s work backwards. What does the man receive in the second relationship? To say sex is too easy, though not to be dismissed. What did that other woman provide that his spouse, perhaps, did not?
Certainly, women are pretty. And, that can be slightly distracting. It is kind of hard to ignore the elephant in the living room. But, there is a difference between looking at a painting in a museum and taking it home. So, what happens? Why do men cheat?
Imagine, if you will, a man’s ego as a hot air balloon. A hot air balloon is HUGE! When filled with enough hot air, it actually flies and is capable of carrying people great distances. Yet, it is very fragile. One hold in the shell will cause a loss of pressure by letting the hot air escape. With a loss of air, the balloon will fall. So, what puts a hole in the male ego?
Well, it’s not hard. Almost anything will do. If he does not feel attractive or admired, that will put a pretty big hole in it. If he does not feel appreciated for his efforts, that would do it too. If he does not feel understood, or that anyone cares enough to try to understand, that will certainly do the trick.
So, what does another woman do that tempts men to stray? She patches a hole, or adds more hot air, or both. She might just tell a man, “Wow! Nice suit. You look great today.” That might be something he has not heard for a long time. If he has put effort into his appearance and has not gotten any positive feedback, he will be susceptible to any praise. He will probably give more effort to being nice and generous to those who tell him, or show him how much they appreciate his efforts. A man likes to feel he can be a protector and provider. So, if he takes your car out to get the oil changed, Thank Him! It may seem simple, but it helps him maintain that ego in the air. But, let’s talk about “understanding” for a moment.
Men are raised to be stoic figures. They are supposed to be tough and without feelings. What a crock! Men have feelings. Sometimes they get hurt. Sometimes we need people to talk to. The guys at the bar might understand. But, wouldn’t it be nice if he trusted you, as his spouse, to confide in you, to ask your input and support? If all you offer to his concerns are nagging criticisms, you can bet he will find that support elsewhere. Why would you continue to buy milk from the store that sells spoiled milk? Wouldn’t you try another store?
Men cheat. Women cheat. Half of the marriages today fail. On the other hand, half succeed! No marriage is without challenges. After all, this is a union of two individuals with different needs. How they treat the differences and each other will help them succeed. While this has been an interesting discussion of Why Men Cheat, I realize that it may sound as though I am blaming women. I am not. Men need to be more open to their spouses, and express their needs. Further, when men stray, they have made a choice. And, with every choice, there are personal responsibilities and consequences for that decision. For those that stray, I say, “shame!” But, let these words serve as an opinion as to why men cheat.
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