We’ve talked a lot in our articles about the ugly specter
of divorce. Unless and until you’ve experienced it, you
will never know how challenging divorce can be. You will
never understand the fear divorce engenders into your life.
You will never know the self doubt it creates. You will
also never know the good it ultimately brings as you work
through it’s challenges. I remember those early days; I
remember the processing of the early years; and now that
I’ve completed those tasks, I know the joy of having
accomplished success. At the end of my workout, I found my
Soul Mate and life is decidedly good.In the early days of divorce, you are frequently operating
under the burden of overwhelm. It’s difficult to make
decisions. It’s challenging to see what options might be
available. You operate from a perspective of blame,
because surely it was the other one’s fault and not
yours?It hard to get past your own concepts of failure and
frustration.

That’s because you are hiding behind embarrassment, shame
or guilt and you are trying to make a go of it alone.
Alone is not necessary if you have access to a computer.

The internet is a giant repository of help for you. You
can help you to restore your life to it’s original
happiness if you’ll get out on the internet and do several
things:

1. Sign up on sites that offer assistance for divorcees.

2. Join an online divorce recovery group.

3. Read articles that pertain to the many challenges of
divorce

You don’t need to go it alone. You can find others out
there who are walking in the same moccasins as you and who
completely understand your problems. They might be a few
steps down the path in front of you and their advice is
pertinent, practical and timely. Or you might be a few
steps down the path in front of someone else and you can
pause in your life, turn back and offer your wisdom to them.

Do the research to find which websites provide the best
information for you. Create a folder in the Bookmarks on
your browser so you can gather all these like sites
together for easy retrieval when you need to go there again.

Find places where you can read articles about divorce.

Consider joining an online group of divorcees. At a
minimum, you’ll make new friends, and you’ll glean many
choice tidbits of how to resolve the challenging problems
you are facing with help from those who are currently in or
have experienced fear and self doubt via the same
predicament as you. Who knows? Ultimate good could happen
for you as it did for me. You could eventually find your
soul mate, or create a new career in writing your advice
into a book or articles as you gain strength in resolving
your problems. Hang tough; help yourself. I know you can
do it.
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In his book “Getting Over It: Wisdom for Divorced Parents,”
Len Stauffenger shares his simple wisdom gleaned from his
divorce with his daughters and with you. Len is a Success
Coach and an Attorney. You can purchase Len’s book and it’s
accompanying workbook at
http://www.wisdomfordivorcedparents.com

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