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Would You Stay In A Sexless Marriage?

Today’s question is whether or not you’d stay in a sexless marriage.  I get emails all the time from people who are in a sexless marriage.  It’s usually funny to me that people typically vote one way on this topic, until it actually happens to them.  Then they vote with their heart.

So what’s your answer?  Would you stay in a sexless marriage, or would you bolt for more abundant sexual pleasure.  You can share your comments in the form below.

Here is my advice.  If you love someone, than you should definitely stay in the marriage or relationship.  If you’re not having enough sex, then there’s a good chance that you’re just not creating enough intimacy with your significant other.

Sex should never be an expectation.  It shouldn’t be ‘earned’ either.  Men in particular make this mistake.  They often do things that is seemingly ‘out of the ordinary’ and expect sexual pleasure in return.  Think about this for  second……

You just made your wife feel like a HOOKER!

You think you did something good by cleaning the house, making dinner, and rubbing her shoulders.  These are all great things, but when you expect sex in return, they lessen the feelings your wife has and actually turns her off.

Try creating intimacy each day.  Tell your partner you love them, and tell them WHY!  Who doesn’t want to know why they’re loved, why they’re wanted, why they are the most important person in the world to you?  Do things to ease your lover’s burdens, for them, not for sex.

When you begin to show you care, your partner will feel it.  In many respects, showing you care is foreplay.  Foreplay doesn’t always start in the bedroom.  It starts by showing your partner you mean the world to them, no matter what.

Too often people get into relationships to receive.  They want to receive love.  They want to receive sex.  They want to receive attention.

Try getting involved to give.  Give all those things and you’ll be amazed and what you get in return!

So my advice, if you’re in a sexless marriage, is to stay in the marriage if you love your partner.  Stay, and figure out what YOU can GIVE.  When you can do that, you’ll finally GET what you really wanted.

So after reading my views, tell me what you think.  Leave a comment in the box below and let me know if you agree or disagree.  If you have a question you’d like addressed, let us know!

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1 Comments


  1. Moe

    While I do agree with individuals in sexless marriages should stay and fight and that couples should think more of giving rather than doing something and hoping for a reward; I disagree with what you said about “sex should not be an expectation”. The truth is that it should be expected and a requirement in a marriage. Just as a woman expects for her man to respect her, just as a woman expects for her man to work and provide for the family, just as a woman expects for her husband not hit or abuse her. The reward is not just for but for both the man and woman when couples have sex. If either is not being satisfied then they need to communicate that and come up with ways both people can be fulfilled. Outside of being sick, there really is no excuse for a sexless marriage because the fact of the matter is that no matter who or where you are… “WE ALL MAKE TIME FOR WHO OR WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO US”, no exceptions. We make time for work, school, kids and other activities going on in and around our lives but we can’t set aside 30 – 60 minutes to enjoy our spouses sexually… There is definitely an underlying problem that needs to be resolved.


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